I am available to speak at your event, and am comfortable speaking on Christian feminism, egalitarian theology, how to prevent, identify, and respond to abuse in Christian settings, and being a spiritual, physical, and sexual abuse survivor. If you’d like to schedule me to speak, please include “Booking” in the e-mail subject line. Fees are nominal, mostly covering travel costs.

I also have experience appearing on podcasts and radio programs, including Pensacola Right Now, the Drew Marshall Show, BBC’s Beyond Belief and Things Unseen.

  • Rachael

    I just read your blog about Calvary Chapel abuse. And yes I share your anger and disgust. The fact is that the Calvary Chapel is very toxic. The teaching is wrong and the answers you receive are designed to lack empathy-ie Calvary Chapels embrace a form of toxic narcissism.

  • Hi!

    Can you add our website to your links, thanks!
    ACCN Australia Website
    Spiritual and Mental Abuse in Apostolic Christian Church Nazarene in Australia:

    Thank you

  • I’m still trying to overcoming a fundamentalist indoctrination. Thank you for this blog!

  • #8 in the 15 reasons should probably be Romans 8:28 not Hebrews.

  • Hi! of course this horrible story about Justin Pelletier had me in knowledge overkill that led me to an article about Homeschooling’s Invisible Children. It’s very sad to me that there are bad parents, but that is a part of the darkest side of humanity. If there are parents who want to abuse their children, they will manipulate situations and the children will fall through whatever protective nets are there. Abuse is not limited to home education, and in the case of Laurie Williamson,, her home schooling and church friends were unemotionally in agreement that this lady was evil, if you know about her.
    I home schooled all three of my children and did not abuse them. It’s so sad that I have to qualify this. They are not misfits, and are productive members of society. Unfortunately, I will also be labeled by some as a scary right winger because I also call myself a Christian. It’s very popular to bash Christians. Just let all the Christians leave America now and find out what a Muslim society is like. Hmmm. Burka anyone?

    • Hi,

      I just wanted to let you know that Islamaphobic comments violate my comment policy. Please keep my comment policy in mind as you participate here.

      Thank you.

  • Brianna

    I love what youre doing. HOWEVER, I also grew up in the deep south, I was raised Catholic and Protestant. and there is something that puzzles me. You see, the bible says if a tree bears bad fruit, cut it down and burn it. To me Christianity is not several trees, but one big giant tree, making up the liberals, moderates and fundies. The way I see it, if you ignore the fundies youre just plugging your ears, closing your eyes and screaming LA LA LA. See no evil, hear no evil speak no evil. This is why I consider myself a Pagan Buddhist Monist. We are all connected, but Christianity, ALL of christianity even the liberal sects are bad fruit. Tear down the tree, and you get……….yourself. Your true self, not this Jesus worshipping parody of a person. Christians believe you are worthless without Jesus, That is why I think all of christianity is bad, even the so called liberal sects. By the way, Christians believe women are lesser beings, so why be christian at all? Because youre a coward. That is why.

    • Disagree with me all you like, but please abide by my comment policy. Direct insults and attacks on anyone’s character aren’t allowed. The last few sentences weren’t necessary. You’d already made your point.

  • Adele

    Hi Samantha,
    I recently began following your blog after being led here from Love, Joy, Feminism. I have found your articles thoughtful, intelligent, and interesting. One question: Did you recently change your blog layout or background? Now there is a dark stripe about an inch wide down the center of the page. Is this intentional, or maybe a problem with my out-of-date browser? I wasn’t going to mention it, but I am finding it more and more distracting and I don’t want to be distracted from the important things you are saying.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perspective with us.


    • I did recently change it, bit that shouldn’t be happening. I’ll ask WordPress about it.

  • Adele

    Wow – that was fast! I just determined that the problem is browser specific. When I open your page in Chrome the stripe isn’t there. If you still want to contact WordPress, the browser that wasn’t working for me is IE 8.0.7601

    Have a good night!


  • Hi Samantha, anne and i love marriage, we’ve been married for 38 years, and we live in Colorado Springs. Can we send you a complimentary copy of our new marriage book? It’s called “TOGETHER Reclaiming Co-Leadership in Marriage.” Our focus is the mutual equality and mutual authority (co-leadership) God designed for marriage in the beginning. We’d love for you to compare/contrast it to REAL MARRIAGE … thanks-:)-

  • Random atheist

    Hi! Could you please share your thoughts on verses Numbers 31:17-18? It seems absurd to assume that the Israeli soldiers asked these women for consent, which raises the question why (a moral) God would allow this.
    (I’m a regular reader of your blog and I know that you often emphasize the importance of consent in sexual relations, so I’m just curious what you – as a Christian – think about this passage.)
    Thanks for your time.

  • Magnolia

    Samantha: Just read your piece on Trump at Patheos, and you’re right on. I don’t believe in an antichrist, but if I did, he’d be it. And there is a psychological dimension to the madness, too: if you ever have time, do read Carl Jung’s essays (written in 1936 and 1945) on Hitler, the psychology of naziism, and mass psychosis. They’re as applicabke today as then.

    And in the meantime, just keep thinking and writing.

    • Missionary Dave

      “Hitler’s ‘religion’ is the nearest to Mohammedanism, realistic, earthy, promising the maximum rewards in this life, but with a Moslem-like Valhallah into which worthy Germans may enter and continue to enjoy themselves. Like Mohammedanism, it teaches the virtue of the sword. Hitler’s first idea is to make his people powerful because the spirit of the Aryan German deserves to be supported by might, by muscle and by steel. – Carl Jung

      Jung is speaking about Islam in a sense that was not only religious but also political. Jung was knowledgeable in Islamic theology and owned and read the Quran. He was familiar with the Hadiths as well. Jung had good knowledge of Islamic culture as a result of his compassionate study of Arabic alchemy and his knowledge of the Quran.

      Jung saw Germany’s adherence to Nazism in the same manner as Islamist’s view their adherence to Islam. In that aspect, Jung had great insight. The terrorism perpetrated against the Jews in Germany is astonishing similar to systematic genocide of ISIS.

      Mass hysteria? Jung was chided by many in his field for his theories regarding Nazi Germany. Some even disassociated themselves from Jung due to his anti-Semitic statements in comparing Jewish and Aryan culture.

      It was not mass hysteria; it was mass poverty and hunger on a national scale that led Germans to follow after Hitler. I visited Germany in the 60’s and spoke with those who lived in those years. They would have followed the leadership of anyone who could put food on their tables.

      Over the years I have seen this continual penchant to portray any person that someone does not like to Hitler. It is a failed comparison. No one is building death camps and exterminating people at will.

      Interesting enough, FDR, a Democrat and the Yoda of leftist ideology, is the only president that has ever signed into law an executive order to establish internment camps. During his administration over 120,000 persons, mostly of Japanese heritage, were rounded up and placed in these camps. Ironically, 60,000+ were actually American citizens.

      What we are experiencing in this election cycle is a rejection of the political dynasties that have ruled for far too long. I just covered the recent election in the Philippines and I witnessed the very same. The newly elected president made bold statements about extrajudicial killings, eliminating corrupt politicians and police officers and reinstating the death penalty. He won by a 6 million vote majority. I saw no evidence of mass hysteria. What I did see was a rejection of polished, professional politicians who have done little, or nothing, to improve the lives of the people.

      When you have followed politics for many years or you have voted in many elections you will arrive at one immutable truth; that being, candidates will say things or make promises that will never come to fruition. History is awash with such comments and promises. This time around, on a global scale, voters want an outsider. Mass discontent would be a more realistic overview than mass hysteria.

  • shibui

    Samantha, I just read your piece own Trump too and want to attagirl it. I also think you would be endorsed by what Walter Wink writes abut the turn-the-other-cheek citing in his books on power — the first three-part, heavy-duty series but then, easier, his more civilian book on power that followed them. Peace, Beth

  • Missionary Dave

    Comment Policy? It’s social media. My goodness. I guess those of us who live in places where Freedom of Speech is virtually nonexistent will always be genuinely concerned about having restrictions placed upon us. Such restrictions smack of totalitarian ideology. Of course, anyone who has ever read a history book knows that restricting personal freedoms are the first step of a paradigm shift away from democracy and toward totalitarian rule.

    In every social media venue, I have never blocked or limited an opposing viewpoint. Why? First, I am humble enough to realize that I do not know everything and in the process of open discussion I have an opportunity to grow in knowledge. Second, I am willing to discuss any topic. Many writers gravitate to a niche market because it makes life easy. Unfortunately, staying within the confines of one’s comfort zone causes a writer to become overly defensive when confronted by questions from those outside of their niche audience.

    Those writers who possess great wisdom are those who can discuss any topic without becoming defensive or trying to limit an opposing point of view.

    • Blog comment policies does not restrict free speech. People have freedom of speech, but Samantha is free to not borrow them her mic or her podium.

      Car Magazine does not publish any letters to the editor on how to make lipstick last longer on your lips. At a political party convention, they would refuse a member of the opposition party the podium. Some opinions are really dangerous – one of my blogs I blocked a commenter who claimed only men but not women are made in the image of God, and the victims’ advocacy/ support blogs I know block victim blaming. A professor who promoted beetroot as a cure for Aids would be unwelcome at a teaching job at a University medical facility. If blog commenting was free for all, 95% or more would be spam advertisements.

      If Samantha made a law preventing you from having a blog, or threw you in prison for your opinion, she would have opposed free speech. But this blog is her little corner of the free speech universe, where she exercises her free speech. If anyone feels they want to say something which is not welcome here, they also have Internet and could use their own blog ar social media for it.

      “writers who possess great wisdom … can discuss any topic without becoming defensive or trying to limit an opposing point of view.” – Missionary Dave
      Ideas have consequences. Of some ideas (i.e. women being lesser people than men, LGBT people being “yucky”) the consequences are sometimes really terrible. So terrible, that wisdom will defend against it. Arguing with that kind of idea is sometimes like mud wrestling a pig – you achieve nothing, get dirty and the pig enjoys it.

      • Missionary Dave

        And there in lies the crux: Those who think themselves wise, became fools. (Romans 1:18-32) Throughout the course of history the baser things have always confounded the wise; those who believe their education (Read a piece of paper here) gives them some great insight as to who is right and who is wrong by comparing others to their own personal standards or set of values. In fact, there is a segment of the media that believes they alone have exclusive rights to elect the president. Obviously, their skewed ideas have wrought terrible consequences by handing the 2008 election to a virtual and inexperienced unknown.

        Social media is what it is….by definition…it is social. Blocking someone is like inviting a person to your house for a party and then not answering the door when they arrive. In all of my years on social media I have never blocked anyone, nor have I deleted their comments. Why?

        As I said earlier, baser things confound the wise. There have been those times when I thought I was absolutely correct in my thinking, but a person with less education and experience presented an opposing point of view that allowed me to see my errant thinking. Therefore, by keeping the door open to all, I am afforded an opportunity for continued dialogue. Communication is the key and all are welcome in my house.

        • Beroli

          In fact, there is a segment of the media that believes they alone have
          exclusive rights to elect the president. Obviously, their skewed ideas
          have wrought terrible consequences by handing the 2008 election to a
          virtual and inexperienced unknown.

          I was just thinking what this blog really needed, was some conspiracy theories.

        • I do not have to put up with people harassing me and verbally assaulting me with “I’m going to find where you live and rape you until you’re a bloody corpse,” and I’m not going to. I do not have to tolerate people saying I’m an abomination, or that I’m worse than a rapist, or who do nothing else but insult me. There’s nothing to be learned there.

          You’re free to disagree with me about that IN YOUR OWN DAMN SPACE, but I also don’t have to listen to lectures from strangers. Further comments from you in this thread will be deleted.

        • Beroli

          For all the faux-humility in your implying that you don’t think yourself wise, you’re certainly very sure of your off-the-wall assertions.

          “I see no need for a comment policy, and feel entitled to pontificate condescendingly about how no one should” says only that you’re too insulated to have the first clue what you’re talking about and your brain doesn’t actually recognize that other people know things you do not.

    • This is the contact page. My comment policy is here: You’ll note that I explicitly encourage “disagreement and healthy discussion.” I do not even block or delete comments that initially violate my policy– I educate them if possible, and if they refuse to follow the moderation rules of my blog, THEN they are banned.

      This whole comment is based on a faulty premise, however. Moderating my comment section has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with your freedom of speech. Considering that this in the Internet, expecting “freedom of speech” to be a term free from independent contexts and laws is also ridiculous. Freedom of speech in France and freedom of speech in the US have different cultural meanings with different legal histories and different priorities, so your whole “you restrict my speech freedom!” argument is full of holes.

  • Meredith Anne

    Thank you for your courage, Samantha. I too was raised in a Christian, homeschooling family. As I’ve been living on my own the past two years, I’ve come to see how much I let them shape my beliefs. It’s hard to find your own voice. How did you initially handle leaving your family’s home and establishing your own?

  • Elizabeth McPherson

    Samantha, I just read one of your articles that was cross-posted on patheos Quiverfull no more. While I can certainly identify with you on a number of counts, the one that struck me most was “Invisible Being Sick”. It’s bad enough dealing with what feels like one’s body betraying one, feeling SO frustrated that one can’t do as one used to be able to do. My first or rather second experience with invisible sickness related to a fractured spine with 3 vertebrael compressions after a car recklessly passed a line of parked cars and hit me, knocking me to the ground where I was hung on for dear life being dragged by this idiot’s car. I was only 24 and it was at a turning point in my life as it was. At any rate, I did not receive the best medical care. I had no assistive devices to get around the city and campus (which is HUGE), wearing a back brace with steel rods underneath my clothing so no one SAW that I was ill, or walking slow, sitting down, bending over to alleviate pain, breaking down in tears because of pain without any treatment for it. I just thought I’d say hello and that I DO know what it is like when people make assumptions about one’s (dis)abilities purely by how one happens to look on a particular day, wearing or carrying any “identifying object” of disability. I, too, have fibromyalgia (and a list of other stuff that would just bore everyone). One of the absolute best things I can do for myself when I have a body of nerve pain is to just add bubbles (scented with roses or lavender or…), having taken pain medication as needed (Lyrica is very good for fibromyalgia) and just lay there in the hot, steaming, scented water. It is the ONLY thing that will take away ALL of my pain. Just amazing. Afterwards, I am asleep in 20 minutes. Bliss! Now I can follow your site as well. Glad to have found you!