Comment Policy

I have one very basic, very essential, rule: don’t be an asshole. My house, my rules. If I don’t like you, I get to kick you out. I reserve the right to do this at any time for any seemingly arbitrary reason.

I encourage disagreement and healthy discussion. I also appreciate being called out on something that I’ve done wrong. However, there is a difference between disagreement and harassment.

Include any one of the following in your comment, and you will be instantly banned:

  • rape apologia
  • victim blaming
  • threats
  • MRA/Voice for Men/Red Pill arguments

Include any of the following, and your comment will be edited to remove the offending material and you will receive a warning. Continuing to include any of the following means that I will block you:

  • Sexism and Misogyny
  • Racism
  • Ableism
  • Homophobia
  • Transphobia
  • Transmisogyny
  • Misogynoir
  • Ageism
  • Biphobia

Note: arguments concerning “reverse sexism” or “reverse racism,” etc., for the purposes of this policy, fall under this rule.


I do not publish comments that include links unless those links are directly related to the post and contribute to the discussion in a meaningful way. I do very much appreciate links that meet this criteria.

Comments that are intended to market your book or blog will probably not be published. This will be on a case-by-case basis. If the comment still contributes meaningfully to the discussion, I’ll probably publish it.

Because this blog is a space for spiritual and sexual abuse victims, occasionally comments are triggering to survivors even though they may not obviously violate the comment policy. If you are feeling triggered or feel unsafe because of a commenter, let me know and I will evaluate whether or not they should be blocked.