Comment Policy

I have one very basic, very essential, rule: don’t be an asshole. My house, my rules. If I don’t like you, I get to kick you out. I reserve the right to do this at any time for any seemingly arbitrary reason.

I encourage disagreement and healthy discussion. I also appreciate being called out on something that I’ve done wrong. However, there is a difference between disagreement and harassment.

Include any one of the following in your comment, and you will be instantly banned:

  • rape apologia
  • victim blaming
  • threats
  • MRA/Voice for Men/Red Pill arguments

Include any of the following, and your comment will be edited to remove the offending material and you will receive a warning. Continuing to include any of the following means that I will block you:

  • Sexism and Misogyny
  • Racism
  • Ableism
  • Homophobia
  • Transphobia
  • Transmisogyny
  • Misogynoir
  • Ageism
  • Biphobia

Note: arguments concerning “reverse sexism” or “reverse racism,” etc., for the purposes of this policy, fall under this rule.


I do not publish comments that include links unless those links are directly related to the post and contribute to the discussion in a meaningful way. I do very much appreciate links that meet this criteria.

Comments that are intended to market your book or blog will probably not be published. This will be on a case-by-case basis. If the comment still contributes meaningfully to the discussion, I’ll probably publish it.

Because this blog is a space for spiritual and sexual abuse victims, occasionally comments are triggering to survivors even though they may not obviously violate the comment policy. If you are feeling triggered or feel unsafe because of a commenter, let me know and I will evaluate whether or not they should be blocked.


  • Devin Moore

    I am 60 years old and have finally come to terms with the spirit destroying abuse I suffered as a child in the name of fundamentalist Christianity. I still believe in God and the many great spiritual teachers from all faiths, including Jesus. But, it took a long time to get to this place. I was terrorized as a child with threats of the possession by the devil if I wasn’t careful. I was told that normal anger from a child was possession by the devil. I was told and felt the impact of the belief that women and girls were to be subservient to men and boys. I was introduced to a wrathful rather than loving God at a very young age, an image that was perpetuated by the elders in my community. As you can imagine, every word, every action was fear-driven. It is so good to hear the stories of others who have suffered form this form of abuse.

  • Ugh, I wish I had not looked up what “red pill” is.

    • I couldn’t believe what I was seeing the first time I googled it.

  • James Guilianelli

    Thank you for such frankness and honesty about your experience growing up as a fundamentalist Christian! I was raised as a Catholic, and while there is much in the teachings and examples of Christ I admire I have left the church many years ago. I recently butted heads with two fundamentalists on a site about LGBT rights and actually felt bruised by the exchange! I can respect a person’s right to disagree with me on gay rights, but I wasn’t prepared for the vitriol and hatred masquerading as christian love and duty. It just didn’t make any sense to me. Anyway, thank you! You helped restore my faith in intelligent and compassionate discussion!

  • Where do I contact you? A commenter named Beroli is making me feel unsafe with false accusations. He says, in the comment section of “Yes, you hate me”, a blog entry that is by nature for the defense of LGBT against those who oppress them. He falsely claims my blogs say things in defense of anti-transgender bathroom bills. That is wholly untrue. My blogs never mention bathroom bills. Or bathrooms, for that matter.

    It is not the first untrue thing he tells of me either, while I comment under my own name and he hides behind a pseudonym. His untruths generally paint me as having a negative view of gays, which is not true.

  • jtenebrae

    At Dawn Look to the East: So very well said. The analogy is perfect.

  • sandy rome

    Hi, Samantha, currently posting on my husband’s account. I did post this over at NLQ, but wanted to hear your input. Do you feel there is any room for compromise on this topic of reproductive rights?

    I have a huge issue with elective abortion, particularly in the second trimester of pregnancy. In the years since Roe vs. Wade, significant advances have been made in the medical field. Ultra sound technology has grown. We have a window into the womb, so to speak. Infants are surviving at earlier and earlier ages outside the womb. Life saving surgeries are being performed while babies are still in utero.

    No one wants to see any woman lose her life. I certainly don’t. But, what about the concern for the lives of our unborn children as well? Why should it be considered an anti-feminist position to want to see balance in this area? Is it time for some revision and tightening of our laws ?

    Also, I would be very interested to hear what led to such a radical change of your views going from picketing outside of abortion clinics to now attending seminary to advocate for reproductive rights.

    (Would have posted this directly under your post, but could not figure out how to do it. 🙂 )

    Appreciate your sharing?

    God bless!

  • Roxy

    Hi, Samantha. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family, too. I am much older than you (71), but it was a struggle to get myself free. Even though I started questioning things at age 13 approximately, I would say I was almost 40 before I could let all of the beliefs go because I had been so brainwashed. I had horrible nightmares for years. I’ve been free of their sick ideology for a long time now, am a happy atheist, and love life. I applaud you for what you are doing and wish you the best.