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  • I really appreciate this definition, that lust is when a person becomes an object in another person’s mind and a person desires to obtain that objectified person, losing sight of the humanity of that other person. Thanks for considering this topic.

  • I’ve always found it helpful to think of lust in terms of temptation vs. being overtaken by temptation (i.e. 1 Corinthians 10). Seeing someone who you find attractive, or dressed in a way that you perceive as sexually provocative is obviously not temptation (because that would be placing the blame on someone else’s body for “tempting you”) so it’s obvious that sexual temptation is in the mind. The difference between temptation and sin is the difference between a concupiscent sexual thought popping into your head and “lustful intent”; your mind immediately and instinctively jumping to a sexual thought at the sight of an attractive person cannot be properly called sin, but objectifying that person by means of sexual fantasies or what have you can.

  • Great video! From a personal perspective, I found the distinction between aesthetic, romantic, and sexual attraction very helpful. From an artistic perspective, I loved the bookshelf and the music.

  • Good job, Samantha! You did it – your first video is online! Congratulations!

  • Very good, I think you nailed it. I would add one thing which you touched on in your intro, which is that lust is also taking that next step in your mind. For example, as a guy if I have a neighbor who is very attractive to me I can’t help that. Maybe I see her in a bikini by her pool one day and get “turned on,” and maybe I can’t help that either (although with conditioning I do believe men can curtail it a good bit). But it’s when I take that next step of conscious thought of what it might be like with that woman, or even further to flirting with her, then I’ve entered another serious zone of lust.

  • I should also clarify that i meant to say as a “married guy” which is who Jesus was referring to in the passage you quoted. But the first part of imagining what it would be like can still apply to unmarried if it is ojectificational as you talked about.

  • Such a great exposition of lust vs. attraction and arousal. Also, I’m aesthetically attracted to your awesome eyebrows. 🙂

    • Thank you! And as the girl who grew up with a Brooke Shields-level unibrow, I relish any compliments on my eyebrows. They help with the complex. 🙂

    • Rose

      I second this!

  • This first video was excellent! This is exactly the kind of thing I was hopeful you’d be making when you first announced the project. My oldest daughter is just 3, but I’m very excited to know that these videos will be available as a resource for my wife and I (and either of my daughters, should they like to watch) when that time comes.

    Great job!

  • Rose

    Yay! I’ve been reading your blog for awhile and just have to say, LOVE the vid! Looking forward to more.

  • I came to the same conclusion that lust is objectification, not attraction. It particularly fits with the inclusion of “another man’s wife” in the tenth commandment.

    My perspective on this – and why I believe that objectification takes place whenever we look at people as objects for our use in any context, can be found here: http://fiddlrts.blogspot.com/2014/06/modesty-culture-part-5-faulty.html

  • The video was great! Looking forward to more of them. You have great insights and I’m so glad you share them through your blog, and now videos. 🙂

  • Aibird

    This is awesome. Thank you.

  • Thank you for this – it’s a great video.
    Also thank you for the point about lust being translated from a word that means also covet and the context of it. I’ve spent far too many hours judging myself for finding other people aesthetically and romantically attractive when I was already in a relationship. But adding the distinction that it is about objectifying them, wanting to take and own them, and being prepared to go to any lengths to get them? That helps a lot.
    Can’t wait to see your next one. 🙂

  • I can’t wait to get off of work so I can watch the video! Congrads. ^_^

  • Just excellent. So proud to have played a small part in getting this off the ground. I think your series is off to a great start. I’d play these for my own children if they were still young.

  • Great first video, Sam! Loved it. I really think your vids will do some good. I’ll second everyone in that I think you laid out a great working definition of lust in contrast to other things on the sexual spectrum. You are a great speaker.

    That intro you have is really slick, and I love that music. It seems as though you have a pretty good set up in terms of your equipment and all that, though I will comment that for me the volume seemed a little low.

    • Oh, I did have one question: are you planning on a regular release schedule, or more as time permits kinda thing? You probably already answered that somewhere, so I apologize. I don’t see it at the moment.

    • Yeah I was having problems with recording audio– I discovered that the AV jack on my Nikon D3100 is output only, so I couldn’t use the mic I bought. I tried a variety of ideas trying to work around that, but … I ended up buying a Canon Vixia, which I could do thanks to all the help my readers gave me. I’ll be able to use my external mic next time, and the sound quality should be much better!

      I am going to try to shoot on a regular schedule– not sure what it’s going to be yet. Hopefully every two weeks.