so I'm not dead

Things have been quiet around here for a couple weeks for a few reasons, so I figured I’d give you guys an update. Hopefully I should be back to regular blogging this week, but we’ll see.

Two weeks ago was The Week of Agony (also known as menstruation), and I spent the week curled up in the fetal position reading fantastic books and dealing with insomnia. Thank you, everyone, for the book recommendations in the comments and on twitter. I’m going to the library this week and I’m going to check all of them out.

Last week I was out of the house pretty much every day– running errands, helping pack away freezer meals for a friend who’s going to have a baby soon, giving another friend a ride because she was in a bit of a pinch…

I also found a pair of blue jeans that fit, miraculously. I decided to try on a pair of Lucky Brand flare jeans… and I walked out of the store with them, because those jeans were the first time in my life that I’d put on a pair of jeans that fit. I’m a “curvy” woman, which means that my waist is much smaller than my hips, and on top of that I have a large butt and thick thighs for my weight. I’m pretty thin-looking, but I do not feel thin when I can’t find a pair of pants that fit. If the jeans would fit my waist, it’s impossible to get them around my thighs or over my butt– but if they fit my thighs and butt, than there’s a Grand-Canyon sized gap in the back that no belt can close and they bulge around my inseam and make the front of me look like a boat. So when I pulled on those size-6 (size 6!) flare jeans and they made me look curvy and beautiful and feel skinny . . . well, there’s no saying “no” to that. Also, they were on sale, which helped me justify spending $85 on a single item of clothing.

I’ve  had a few pretty cool opportunities come up– I might be presenting at a conference in Minneapolis if they accept our panel (which they should). I’d be presenting with Addie Zierman and Elizabeth Esther, which would be incredible, because I love them. I also might be taking a trip out to California to speak at a Christian college about sex and consent this Fall or Spring, which would be absolutely mind-blowingly wonderful. Positive thoughts or prayers for these two opportunities would be much appreciated.

I’ve been working hard putting together everything I need for the YouTube channel. I was able to hire the marvelous and fabulous Dani Lee Kelley to put together a brand/logo set, and I’m excited to see the finished product. An early draft of what she’s been working on looks like this:

daughters of eve

And I think it’s beautiful and perfect so far.

I’ve finally settled on what my first video is going to be, and I’m excited to get that up sometime in the next few weeks. As I get closer to putting the first video up the more nervous and excited I get. When everything goes live I’ll get you all the social media and links stuff.

That all said, things are probably going to slow down around here. Between the YouTube channel and my job-that-actually-pays-me-some-money picking up a little bit, I’m not going to have as much time to write. I’ll still probably be able to manage a few posts a week, but the 1,200-words-a-day schedule I’ve been keeping is probably going the way of the do-do bird.

Anyway, love you all.

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  • Brett

    I’m glad to hear from another person who discovered how great Lucky jeans are. I wore loose, cheap jeans from Walmart and other places like that growing up, so when I had a gift card and some money I decided I wanted to actually get a good pair of jeans that fit me, even if it meant I had to spend some money to do it. Lucky jeans were those jeans, and I ended up getting two other pairs in a Black Friday sale at Macy’s.

  • thanks for the update – glad everything’s ok (I had been missing you here and on twitter)!

  • Interesting that your site is about overcoming fundamentalism but your channel is daughters of eve… might want to insert michondrial in there to reduce ambiguity… 🙂

  • Claire MacDonald

    I, too, am curvy and have immense trouble finding pants that fit. Do you happen to know if Lucky jeans are available in Canada?

    Another thought for pants in general. I’ve found that men’s pants tend to have a higher waist and thus be easier to tailor, so I get good-quality men’s pants on sale that fit my butt and thighs, then go to a local tailor and for maybe another $20 get them brought in at the waist. Pants that fit me absolutely perfectly, for not too much money. Don’t know if this would work for you, but figured I’d put it out there. 🙂

  • sarah

    As long as you are checking out fantasy books, look at the Fablehaven series. The first book’s writing is a little rough but the concept is fun enough that it is still worth the read. The next 4 books are more well written. They are young fiction which is like the mac and cheese of comfort reading. Good luck with all of your stuff.

  • One, I’m loving the design for the logo. It’s beautiful and it’s empowering and part of accepting ourselves is accepting that we will always have a connection, justified or not, to the first woman.

    Two, I feel your joy at finding pants that fit. I’ve pretty much given up on the idea for me but I am so glad that you were able to find something so wonderful. It might seem to be a luxury, but the luxuries are necessary if we aren’t to be completely drained by what we do.

    A woman has to take care of herself or she’s not going to be able to take care of anyone else.

    So good for you and I’m glad that you’re recovering. I look forward to seeing what you have to share with all of us as you are able. I understand all too well that sometimes we can’t always do what we want at the pace we want.

    Thank you.

  • Stephanie

    I have not had a period since 2009. I take the Pill sans placebos and it has made my life tolerable and livable. I had issues for a longtime and short of surgery, the Pill has been a Godsend for that reason. No more periods and I dont miss them.

  • Well, congrats on the pants and on things picking up professionaly a bit for you! Fingers crossed for Minneapolis and California. Good luck on the Daughters of Eve project. Looking forward to the first vid.

  • Anna

    Congrats on your YouTube channel and potential speaking activities! So exciting.

  • Anna

    Maybe next you can write a book about your experiences, or a curriculum for Christian colleges or high school students.

  • Patrick Prescott

    My wife has had the same problem in finding jeans. It’s too late for Mother’s day, but I’ll have to take her to Macy’s and check them out. I don’t care what the price of the item she buys, she knows the money better than I do, just so long as she wears them more than once. That may be sexist, sorry just my reasoning.

  • It’s not quite the same a jeans, but I have 8EEE feet, with a highish arch, so I know the elation of finding something that really, truly fits. Definitely just buy it!